More family than farm

So raising kids is hard! No one told me this before i had them… I love both of my children but my son, ugh my son. He has to be his fathers kid because i sure don’t remember acting the way he does some times. So in school the other day decided to spell a not so nice word, yes his dad and i cuss but i thought i had raised my kids to know better, i was wrong. He’s 8 and in the first grade so hes at the age he knows right and wrong, or so i hope. I’m on my way to the school to pick the kids up and i get a message from his teacher that my kid decided to spell out F*** to one of the kids he sits next to, WOW! talk about a shock, i get to the school park and go in both the kids look at my like uhhh why is mom coming in? i get into the school and head towards my sons class room so he figured i was going to talk to his teacher. him and i go in and talk to his teacher and try to decide exactly how to handle this….. I told her i would do my best to discipline him at home and told her that what ever she decided was a fair punishment at school i would be OK with. In the first grade they have a thing called free choice at the end of the day, she decided to take away that, boy was he mad. I have since taken away all electronics and he now has an earlier bed time, yes the mom guilt has set in and he knows that i’m not one to stick to punishments, but i have to stick to this one, i don’t want him to think he can just get away with what ever he wants and that there is consequences for his actions. I know i’m not the only parent out there that is going though similar situations, but i sure never hear about them. Now my daughter shes almost 11 and wants to become that social butterfly that most girls turn into, which is fine again not sure where she got that from i was always that kid that went home never and never did anything, but i’m glad shes not like her momma and has friends. well we have this rule that she needs to talk to her dad and i before hand and not just come running out of school asking if so and so can come over. again heres where the push over mom comes in, most of the time i give in and say “yea they can come over for a while”, well after my sons ordeal i was in no mood to deal with any extra kids or have them see my yelling like a crazy lady. So i told her no and here comes the “well mom she already asked her parents and they said it was ok”. uhh no child that’s not how that works so i had to take the little girl home and feel like the bad guy and hoped it didn’t ruin my daughters friendship with this other girl. we get home i’m talking to them both asking if they remembered the rules or how were supposed to act? i was tossing the idea around about if i should tell their dad. yes, i ended up ratting them both out to their dad and surprisingly he took it better than i did, normally hes the disciplinarian. he talked to both kids and stood behind me on the being grounded from electronics, i guess i can count that as a win for team parents. now fast forward to today after school the girl kid of mine listened and came out of school by herself and didn’t ask if she could have a friend over. the boy on the other hand….i asked hey did u have a good day today? he said well yes i didn’t get in trouble. so i messaged his teacher to double check…….his story did not match up at all. apparently he decided he didn’t want to do his school work so he just threw it in the trash! ugh kid your going to make me bald before he turns 18. his teacher told me she made him get it out of the trash and finish his work during his free choice time, good call teach good call. after i told him i messaged his teacher he just said mom stop, you don’t nee to check on me every day, that right there tells me i need to check on him everyday because he leaves some details out. i know its just the age or a phase and this to shall pass. All i can say is it needs to hurry and get straightened out before i need to go wig shopping!